Sep 26 2023

I’ve always been rubbish at taking a compliment. If you tell me I look nice I will probably tell you that I’ve had my outfit for years and that I need a haircut. If you tell me I did something well I will probably tell you that other[…]

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Sep 12 2023

The Map is Not the Territory This is a simple but important phrase. It means that our representation (memory) of a situation will not be exactly as the reality of the situation. Our internal representation will be influenced by numerous factors which are individual to us and the[…]

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Jul 13 2023

You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup… In the event of an emergency on an aeroplane there is a reason why parents have to be told to put their own oxygen masks on first. And there is also a reason why this message is still repeated every single[…]

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Jun 20 2023

I genuinely thought that I had come up with this term. I originally used it to explain to children’s home staff why it was important to relate consequences to behaviour and it seemed to make sense to them so I kept using it. Then I googled it and[…]

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May 5 2023

NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming. So what does that mean then? Basically it uses research and long-standing knowledge of processes relating to the human mind and body to develop therapeutic techniques to support people to make positive changes to their situation. The underlying assumptions centre around the[…]

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Apr 29 2023

I’ll say it again: BEHAVIOUR IS COMMUNICATION. Traditional methods of parenting focused on behaviour management (trying to get rid of behaviours the parent didn’t like). BUT if we try to respond to behaviour by focusing on changing it rather than trying to understand it, we are not going[…]

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